Kanishka was a bright girl. She had a great passion to learn, had good grasping skills, understood, and spoke well. In all the senses, she was perfect candidate to achieve her goals, and attain greater things in life. People in-and-around her spoke high of her.
Yet, there was a problem. She was not completely happy with herself. Every time, she found some lacunae in herself. Over the time, she had problems with her self-esteem where once if encountered a failure, she used to go into a shell. It was a sad phase of the day where she wouldn’t talk to anyone and doesn’t show interest in anything. The more problem was with the fact that she knew that this behavior of hers was not good for herself!
Does this behavior not match with some of us? Human beings are typical in nature. Thoughts occur in a fraction of second. There are millions of thoughts that rush in a mind. Every passing second we have a thought. The major important factor lies upon how we take those thoughts forward. It is the thoughts that set our goals, goals that set our expectations. And, if expectations are not met, people tend to remain aloof and unhappy with them.
What could be done?
- Set goals realistically: It’s good to dream but dream of something that seems on the line of your attainment levels.
- Be generous towards yourself: No one in life you meet is perfect. It’s just our thought that makes anybody perfect. So, accept yourself with flaws as well. Adopt a healthy way of self-criticism. Ensure that it doesn’t affect your self-esteem.
- Strive towards betterment, not perfection: As already stated above, it’s good to be always better than what you did previously. This helps you feel progressing and thus keep you calm.